Ecology of life. Psychology: Everything that can ruin your life is exclusively in your head, so let's try ...
From childhood, we are taught not to commit bad deeds: do not swear, do not fight, do not steal, do not lie, etc.
But for some reason, since childhood, we are not taught that it is impossible to think badly.
You ask: “Why, if no one except us knows what thoughts are in our head?”
The answer is simple - these thoughts form the algorithms of our actions, being at the same time their initiators. In other words, thought is the beginning of everything.
And that is why you need to learn to think correctly and control the thought process going on in your head. Everything else, as they say, will follow. And this is a very important point, especially for you. It is important to control your thoughts constantly. Otherwise, they will control you, guiding you along your path.
The ability to put things in order in your head and maintain cleanliness there always, and not on some day of the week there, is the highest aerobatics that brings happiness and satisfaction with your own life.
So it's very simple. But only for those who really felt or believed that not all the thoughts swarming in your head are yours, and that thoughts can really be controlled and directed, directing them in the direction you need.
The majority, unfortunately, believes that everything that happens in his head has only one owner - the physical owner of this very head. He is the master of all human life. And all the difficulties, troubles and minor mischief that often arise on the way are the intrigues and tricks of the evil ones living around, and even the tricks of fate.
So, let's begin.
Surely there have been moments in your life when a bad mood overshadowed everything around, when resentment, anger, anger, envy, and discontent were downright choking. But also, for sure, there were states when you want to hug the whole world, every little thing pleases, only good is seen in everything. Did you understand that both those and other situations originated in your head? That the development of events followed step by step the development of your thoughts?
SITUATION:
Morning. Monday. You wake up not by yourself (stretching sweetly and looking out the window with delight, anticipating a good, fruitful day), but by the sound of an alarm clock. You wake up with the thought that you have to get up and go back to this hated job, where no one wants to do anything, the boss is always dissatisfied with everything, they pay pennies, and even get there either in crowded public transport, or jostling in traffic jams by car. Yes, and it's just that you are not interested there, but you need money to live! And you are already now, on Monday morning, lying in bed and “foreseeing” all the events, you think: “Lord, this week would soon pass, this weekend would soon be!” And in the evening, by the way, you can state that the day failed again.
"Debriefing"
And let's start with your petition for the approaching end of the week. Are you aware that you are asking to shorten your life? Your one and only life! Think about it. Maybe it's better to change jobs?
Further. The fact that you, as it turned out, "foresaw" all the troubles of the day, has a completely different name. This is not foresight at all - this is programming. The launch of a mechanism for the implementation of everything that was drawn in your imagination with thoughts. Just one dirty little thought, coming from nowhere upon awakening, launched a whole stream of negative thoughts, depicting various negative situations. Just one thought opened the door in your head to an avalanche of similarly directed thoughts.
There is another option that you missed the thought, not recognizing in it the instigator of future troubles. A loophole for such thoughts is the potential willingness to condemn a tyrant boss, to scold a clumsy passenger who stepped on his foot, to be indignant at the activities of the government, and so on.
In general, be that as it may, the mood for the whole day is spoiled. And hence all the ensuing consequences.
We have considered one completely ordinary situation, which is repeated very, very often. Surely, everyone fell into it, cursed everything in the world for it, and remained in a vicious circle of ignorance and powerlessness to change anything.
But now, having analyzed the situation and understanding what's what, we can act not in the darkness of ignorance, but in the ray of knowledge. Now, knowing the enemy by sight, it will be unimaginably easier for us to cope with him.
It remains for us to formulate an algorithm of thinking, in which a person really, absolutely consciously, builds his life.
First of all, you need to learn how to filter the information provided, tracking what it awakens in you, what it makes you think about.
It is necessary to refuse to view or listen to negative information that does not carry anything of value to you, but simply clogs the brain. It is much better to occupy the mind at your own discretion, clearly selecting useful, creative, developing information. Keeping in mind that “an idle brain is the workshop of the devil”, read more, watch and listen to what makes you happy and positive emotions, what encourages you to learn and develop both spiritually and physically.
VERY important point! If you have begun to practice everything written in the previous paragraph, then be prepared for the fact that negative thoughts not only do not disappear from your head, but also become more active, strengthen their attack. At this stage, it is important to understand that they cannot be eliminated, they can only be skipped, ignored, or replaced with positive ones. How to do it?
EXPLAINING WITH AN EXAMPLE
You are in a good mood and with a smile you go into the boss’s office to report on the task completed on time, and he suddenly breaks like a dog off the chain and begins to humiliate and insult you almost with his fists for something that is not your fault. Previously, obeying well-learned patterns, you would have demonstrated your command of the word by arguing, justifying and proving the opposite, at the same time getting upset for at least a whole day, thereby skipping a whole army of negative thoughts with all the ensuing consequences.
And now we are changing the algorithm of thinking and behavior!
In response to the boss’s stormy remarks, mentally wish him well and joy, as he is currently harming himself. And if it’s hard for you to forgive and understand him right off the bat, then you can use an absurd funny association: imagine him in his shorts riding a donkey, urging a flock of geese with his cry. Just try not to laugh, so as not to "add fuel to the fire." Try it and you will see how easy it is not to succumb to third-party stimuli when your thoughts are under your clear control!
Whenever you feel that bad thoughts are creeping up on you, immediately switch to something positive, do not wait for a spoiled mood and tears to appear, act even before the situation arises and then no one and nothing can influence your life and unfold it in a direction you don't want.
To learn how to control your thoughts, bringing this process to full automation, you need practice, practice and more practice. And be sure to pay attention to exercises for concentration. At the same time, it is very important to keep your attention on the chosen object for as long as possible, without allowing any thoughts into your head. Concentrate on something good more often, look for the good everywhere and in everything (bad, unfortunately, catches your eye).
Remember: everything that can ruin your life is exclusively in your head, so let's try to keep its invisible contents under control! published
What is our speech today? We pay little attention to the tone in which we speak, what words we pronounce. Using abusive and simply very dirty words, we kind of forgot about what a noble and sublime speech is. But this is not only evidence of our ignorance and degradation of consciousness.
Isn't it obvious that when we speak harsh and dirty words, the peace and happiness within us do not increase. Everything happens just the opposite. We allow negative energy to manifest, and then we wonder why we have to take headache pills so often.
Meanwhile, there is a direct connection between the mind and speech. If the mind is healthy, speech is worthy. A healthy mind is always positive. With such a mind, we do not talk about the shortcomings of others, we do not criticize, we do not express claims. We do not complain about fate.
The tone of speech is calm and friendly. Everyone, of course, is happy to communicate with such an interlocutor. To speak with anger is a sign of weakness of the soul.
According to statistics, 90% of all quarrels and conflicts are due to the fact that we speak badly about someone. We all need to learn to speak in a pleasant, noble manner by controlling our speech. In the East, a person who cannot control his speech is considered primitive.
It has long been noticed that we acquire the qualities of the person we think and talk about, therefore, speaking badly about someone, criticizing him, we show the negative qualities of this person in ourselves. If we praise, then we show the good that is inherent in this person. Therefore, thinking about God and talking about Him is the easiest way to acquire divine qualities.
Note that the more selfishness, envy, ill will we have, the more difficult it is for us to speak warmly about someone. The coarser the speech, the less harmonious we are, therefore, the more severe the lessons of life we receive.
Everything is very interconnected, thus speaking badly to another person, without realizing it, we voluntarily open an “entrance” in ourselves through which the negative energy of the person under discussion flows.
I think many will notice that after such “heart-to-heart talks”, or saying “sharply and frankly”, you do not experience a surge of strength. And all because you have lost your energy, and in return received "dirty" ...
One of the reasons why we get tired today and have little time is because we talk a lot. Verbosity is a sign of idle talk. It is necessary to speak little, quietly, with patience and nobility. This way you can save both time and energy. It is important to learn how to check your speech.
They said something and offended a person. And then we make excuses: “I said it just like that ... I didn’t mean to offend at all ...”. This language needs to be changed. The words should have the essence - such words are strong.
Once I met a friend whose appearance has changed a lot. And without thinking, I said: “Oh, how you lost weight. You just don't know."
He said softly, "I'm on a diet." Then we talked a little more and parted ways. It was only as I walked away from him that I suddenly realized the tactlessness of my words. After all, weight loss could be caused by illness. And my words could hurt him.
I began to make excuses to myself: “Yes, maybe they are ill, maybe they really decided to lose weight, now many people look after their appearance, follow various diets.” But then I firmly decided: there will never be such judgments in my words again. Wisdom teaches: think before you say anything.
Words make sense if they are tactful and filled with love for others. And then, no matter how “bitter” words you utter, your heart will certainly accept them. These words will not seem bitter, they will seem accurate.
Otherwise, if we use harsh words, the harshness appears in our appearance. Then our pride is obvious to others, and people will be offended by us. But if even “bitter” words are spoken with love, the feeling of resentment will be transformed, and people will feel our mercy.
You need to talk about everything exactly, but with love. Whatever words the mother instructs the children, but because of motherly love, they are not perceived as harsh and bitter. Children feel: mother loves us, she wishes us well. And in the same way, no matter how clear we say everything, it does not hurt others if we show mercy.
Negative thoughts take a huge amount of energy. Women's participation, women's energy, women's approval for a man is the fuel for all accomplishments and achievements. When a woman thinks badly of her husband, he has no chance of succeeding and being good for you.
“Women, disrespecting their husbands, show this to their children. Now remember and answer the question:
Did your mom respect your dad? How did you get it? Just felt. Children do not need to be explained and told anything, they always know this, and if you do not respect your husband:
Disrespect for a husband has a high price.
- Discussing your husband with others, you will receive a lot of advice: that "he is not a match for you", that "you need to get a divorce." After all, in these discussions you are not listening to yourself and not your heart. You listen to strangers.
I had a friend who discussed her husband with her girlfriend, including intimate life. A friend gave advice that it is better to stop having intimate relationships with her husband altogether. What was the surprise of my friend that this friend of hers and her husband have been lovers for 4 years already. Do you think this only happens in TV shows?
- When you discuss your husband with your mother, you thereby maintain a strong invisible connection with her, you remain a child. You go against your husband, uniting with your mother, you betray him in a sense. Mom will always take pity on her child and scold the offender. But what will it give you? The fact that your mother will no longer respect your husband. And then you will have to restore before her his authority and his status. Be honest - if he's bad, get away from him and live with your mom.
- You will share with a friend in the hope of getting support and approval, and these details will go further from mouth to mouth, they will say about you there, and away we go. Your name will not remain good either. Is it worth it? Or do you naively assume that a friend is silent, like a partisan?
- When you talk bad about your husband, you consider yourself better. You cultivate your pride. When a woman speaks badly about her husband, she breaks the invisible connection and begins to live her own separate life. There is no family at this time. The husband begins to live his own life. You feel it and begin to insure yourself and prepare a way out. And then a dumb question? Why didn't the relationship work out? And we became roommates? I will write a separate article about this, so as not to miss, subscribe to the newsletter.
- Blaming the husband, we subconsciously provoke him to "bad" behavior. We don't need it to change. Then who are we going to blame?
- A man reads any bad thoughts about himself, he understands that he is no longer a dream man for you, that he no longer means anything to you, and you have fallen out of love with him, he lies down on the sofa and begins to take revenge on you. We are back in a vicious circle. On the couch, he hears a lot more about himself that he did not know, and we hope to rouse him to exploits.
What to do?
- It is important to stop not only talking badly about your husband, but also stop thinking badly about him. Even if we do not speak our thoughts out loud, they still affect reality, just like words. All the activity of a woman inside, in her thoughts, is her strength. Even if you stop complaining about your husband, but continue to think of him as a loser, there will be no change, everything will remain as before. This is what I always overlooked.
The desire for an ideal is always a subconscious desire to get an ideal parent. This desire makes you stand still and wait for "weather by the sea." Do you think the perfect man will emerge? Give up expectations of what a partner should be, what he should do, how much to earn. These expectations bring nothing but pain and disappointment.
- When you stop talking bad about a man, you give up the idea of changing him. So you accept him the way he is. You must understand that it is not the man's job to change. A man is not plasticine. This woman needs to change. It is she who must develop in herself such qualities as
- Never discuss your husband's girlfriends, they see the situation only through your eyes, proceed only from "your interests." They are unable to see the true picture and give the right advice. Their advice is obviously wrong. Then why ask for advice? What if your friend is not married? Subconsciously, she will strive to ensure that you are also free and alone. I will write a separate article about this.
Remember, a woman discussing her husband with her friends is a child. Instead of directing female energy to her husband and talking to him, she “pours” it onto her friend.
- If you think badly about a man, this should be a signal that there is something in you and in your life that you do not want to look at. “Everything that we notice in another is in us. What we have inside, we see outside. Everything that, when looking at another, RESPONSES TO OUR FEELINGS, is present in our energy. The first step to change is to look at yourself.”
- Start tracking your thoughts. As soon as you start thinking badly about your husband, it means that you feel bad, you allowed some negative thoughts to penetrate you and therefore you want to shift the responsibility for your misfortune to him. Celebrate these moments and, with an effort of will, stop indulging yourself in shifting responsibility. How old are you? It's time to grow up.
- Learn to respect your man, he will begin to broadcast it to the outside world, other people will begin to respect him. Begin to feel his importance, this will give him confidence and strength. The question of his success will be a matter of time. When a woman sees male virtues, this creates a man, wings grow in him, luck comes to him, everything works out for him. He will never lie on the couch.
A man cannot produce happiness, he can only get it from a woman, from her love, respect, recognition of his merits and merits.
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The success of a man depends at least 50% on a woman. After all, "success depends not only on you, but also on who is next to you." The strength of a woman is that she acts subtly, it is impossible to unravel anything.
The success of a man depends at least 50% on a woman. After all, "success depends not only on you, but also on who is next to you."
The strength of a woman is that she acts subtly, it is impossible to unravel anything. But if a woman does not love herself, considers herself a nobody, then a man next to her cannot achieve anything.
Or on the other hand, when a woman thinks: “Very good. I need such a man. This is my person, ”he immediately changes, begins to bloom.”
This list can be endless if you don't stop in time. We constantly share this list with our girlfriends, with our mother, and if we don’t share, we scroll constantly in our head.
It seems to us that we can change it, and then our life will immediately change, and we will become kind, loving, gentle. Just let him first stop playing the computer, start earning as much as I want, invite me somewhere, give me something. Let it change.
We expect changes from a man only because we are stuck in childhood and do not want to look at ourselves and our lives. It is a very naive dream to think that if a man corrects his shortcomings, I will become happy. Focusing on the shortcomings of another person allows you to sit and not solve your own problems.
Discussing another, we do not look at ourselves. It is harder and more painful to look at your shortcomings and problems, and if you are honest with yourself, then they will have to be corrected. It is much easier to correct the shortcomings of the husband, and how sweet it is to complain about him to others and get the approval of others. I am good, he is bad.
By judging our husband, we rise above him, we consider ourselves better and smarter. We don't know how else to earn attention. We lack our own recognition. As we rise, we thus receive approval.
We know that it is not necessary to criticize and say bad words to your husband, we are taught this from all the pages of the Internet and magazines, that he will leave, find a mistress. When we feel bad, and cats scratch our souls, we think about it last. We need to vent the negativity. We cannot keep it in our souls and are looking for someone to pour it on.
We complain and discuss our husband, because we want to be pitied, supported, we do not feel adult strength in ourselves, we have nothing to rely on inside. We do not know what to do with the feeling of powerlessness. We don't know how to change our lives on our own. We go to "lean" on others, in the hope that they will change our lives. Very naive and childish ideas, isn't it?
If we complain about our husband to our friends or our mother, we are trying to defend ourselves and enlist their support. This is such a childish self-deception.
Telling him or about him that he is so bad, we subconsciously want to take revenge on him for not making us happy. Thus, internally we block the flow of energy to the husband and do not support him. “You are bad - so let nothing work out for you!”. And when he really does not succeed, we get even more angry and offended by him. And we get into a vicious circle.
When a woman speaks or thinks badly about a man, she does not respect him, she moves away from him in her thoughts, she does not support him energetically. Everything goes wrong for him, things don't work out, he doesn't make money, he buys relaxing drinks, and naturally we are even more convinced that we are right that he is not worthy of respect. We are entering a vicious circle. The man is powerless in this situation to change anything.
If you do not stop, then there is always something to criticize. This is a vicious practice - we think badly, speak badly to our friends, mother, and even more convince ourselves that we are right, thereby destroying not only relationships, but also ourselves. This loosens the nervous system, coarsens the female heart, we poison our soul, pollute our body with negativity and evil. And still at the same time we store and transfer it further.
Negative thoughts take a huge amount of energy. Women's participation, women's energy, women's approval for a man is the fuel for all accomplishments and achievements. When a woman thinks badly of her husband, he has no chance of succeeding and being good for you.
Women, not respecting their husband, show this to their children. Now remember and answer the question:
Did your mom respect your dad? How did you get it? Just felt. Children do not need to be explained and told anything, they always know this, and if you do not respect your husband: children do not study well, they thus protest; they do not obey you, they are rude, rude; do the opposite, associate with bad companies, begin to develop bad habits; they cannot create relationships in the future.
When discussing your husband with others, you will receive a lot of advice: that “he is not a match for you,” that “you need to get a divorce.” After all, in these discussions you are not listening to yourself and not your heart. You listen to strangers.
When you discuss your husband with your mother, you thereby maintain a strong invisible connection with her, you remain a child. You go against your husband, uniting with your mother, you betray him in a sense. Mom will always take pity on her child and scold the offender. But what will it give you? The fact that your mother will no longer respect your husband. And then you will have to restore before her his authority and his status. Be honest - if he's bad, get away from him and live with your mom.
You will share with a friend in the hope of getting support and approval, and these details will go further by word of mouth, they will say about you there, and away we go. Your name will not remain good either. Is it worth it? Or do you naively assume that a friend is silent, like a partisan?
When you talk bad about your husband, you think you are better. You cultivate your pride. When a woman speaks badly about her husband, she breaks the invisible connection and begins to live her own separate life. There is no family at this time. The husband begins to live his own life. You feel it and begin to insure yourself and prepare a way out. And then a dumb question? Why didn't the relationship work out? And we became roommates?
Blaming the husband, we subconsciously provoke him to "bad" behavior. We don't need it to change. Then who are we going to blame?
A man reads any bad thoughts about himself, he understands that he is no longer a dream man for you, that he no longer means anything to you, and you have fallen out of love with him, he lies down on the sofa and begins to take revenge on you. We are back in a vicious circle. On the couch, he hears a lot more about himself that he did not know, and we hope to rouse him to exploits.
It is important to stop not only talking badly about your husband, but also stop thinking badly about him. Even if we do not speak our thoughts out loud, they still affect reality, just like words. All the activity of a woman inside, in her thoughts, is her strength. Even if you stop complaining about your husband, but continue to think of him as a loser, there will be no change, everything will remain as before. This is what I always overlooked.
Give up the dream of an ideal partner. This dream sits so deep in us that it is not at all easy to give it up. But in order to move on, you will have to, no matter how difficult and sad it is. You will have to start with yourself. Somehow, this is how life works. You can fight for a long time over the changes of another, but as soon as you let go of this idea a little, your mood improves, and the world around you begins to change, as if by magic.
The desire for an ideal is always a subconscious desire to get an ideal parent. This desire makes you stand still and wait for "weather by the sea." Do you think the perfect man will emerge? Give up expectations of what a partner should be, what he should do, how much to earn. These expectations bring nothing but pain and disappointment.
When you stop talking bad about a man, you give up the idea of changing him. So you accept him the way he is. You must understand that it is not the man's job to change. A man is not plasticine. This woman needs to change. It is she who must develop in herself such qualities as flexibility and softness.
Never discuss your husband's girlfriends, they see the situation only through your eyes, proceed only from "your interests." They are unable to see the true picture and give the right advice. Their advice is obviously wrong. Then why ask for advice?
Remember, a woman discussing her husband with her friends is a child. Instead of directing female energy to her husband and talking to him, she “pours” it onto her friend.
If you think badly of a man, this should be a signal that there is something in you and in your life that you do not want to look at.
“Everything that we notice in another is in us. What we have inside, we see outside. Everything that, when looking at another, RESPONSES TO OUR FEELINGS, is present in our energy. The first step to change is to look at yourself.” Maria Rakitina.
Start tracking your thoughts. As soon as you start thinking badly about your husband, it means that you feel bad, you allowed some negative thoughts to penetrate you and therefore you want to shift the responsibility for your misfortune to him. Celebrate these moments and, with an effort of will, stop indulging yourself in shifting responsibility. How old are you? It's time to grow up.
Learn to respect your man, he will begin to broadcast it to the outside world, other people will begin to respect him. Begin to feel his importance, this will give him confidence and strength. The question of his success will be a matter of time. When a woman sees male virtues, this creates a man, wings grow in him, luck comes to him, everything works out for him. He will never lie on the couch.
A man cannot produce happiness, he can only get it from a woman, from her love, respect, recognition of his merits and merits.
It seemed so unrealistic and strange to modern parents that the publication quickly became viral and attracted the attention of a wide variety of media - from child-parents to socio-political ones.
So, here is what is said in this instruction to the child:
6:00 am: Feed, change diapers, hold, put in the cradle
9:00 a.m.: Give water, undress and put in a cradle, organize a daily sunbath if it's summer
9:30 am: Redeem
10:00 am: Feed, hold, put out the door to sleep
Approximately 13:00: Give water, leave to play, organize daily sunbathing if it is winter outside
2:00 pm: Feed, hold, walk and show motherly care
4:00 pm: Give orange juice
17:30: Redeem
6:00 pm: Feed, hold, crib (lights off, doors closed, windows open, no pacifiers)
10:00 pm or 11:00 pm: Feed in the dark, change diapers, put in a crib and leave to sleep until 6 am.
End! Really cool? Where did they get these kids?
Users of the Mum's Grapevine Facebook group staged a rather heated discussion under the publication of this schedule. Many parents expressed the opinion that "we, it turns out, are doing everything wrong." Others wondered what it meant to "hold" at all.
"What is meant? Hold on outstretched arms? ”, - suggested one of the participants in the discussion. Someone explained that, most likely, they mean disembarkation so that the child relieves himself, and the mother does not have to change diapers or diapers often - as you can see, the instructions only suggest doing this twice, while it is suggested to hold it as many as four times!
The post went viral on other social networks, where it continues to gain likes and be discussed.
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This project - new and unique for our country - is being implemented in kindergarten No. 6 in the city of Orhei. As noted by the ex-mayor of Orhei Ilan Shor, who once took the initiative to modernize all preschool institutions in the municipality, this kindergarten has not been repaired for more than 30 years. According to him, the repair of kindergartens is only part of the modernization program for preschool institutions.
“We have introduced a catering system. I want the children who attend kindergartens to receive good knowledge along with a healthy diet. Therefore, we have decided to pay a salary increase of 1000 lei to each worker of preschool institutions,” said Ilan Shor.
Local authorities reported that a sanatorium-type kindergarten with special educational requirements would be attended by children with health problems, in particular with respiratory problems. At the same time, children who attended this kindergarten before the renovation will be able to return here after it is put into operation. Salt rooms, swimming pools, a sports hall will operate in the renovated kindergarten, and qualified specialists will work in it.
The new kindergarten will have six groups for more than 120 children.
Recall that at the end of last year, kindergarten No. 5 was put into operation in Orhei after a major modernization, which also became unique in the country. The facility has been overhauled and modernized in record time, and the children are now in the best possible conditions. Even the pavement adjacent to the garden is heated, which makes it safer and does not allow ice to form in the winter season.
In total, there are seven kindergartens in Orhei. Currently, work is underway to reconstruct kindergarten No. 2.
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We are always ready to laugh heartily, and at the same time reflect on life situations, so we publish a story about a teenager’s date in order to properly recharge with positive.
Masha is 18. She has a date. She put on her tightest pants.
- What is it? I asked. - We have two great-grandfathers - priests, one academician and one gypsy. Where does this craving for vice and naked buttocks come from? And where did you get the boobs? You will be taken for a woman who wants love!
I suggested dressing simply and effectively: a knee-length sweater, ski pants. He told the rules of dating for women:
1. The first kiss is not before the engagement.
2. Do not enter the entrances.
3. Nietzsche is not to be discussed.
4. Home no later than seven.
And it's also lucky that I'm a father who doesn't give a damn. If I was a hysterical mother, the rules would be much stricter.
I once had a veil of innocence on me. But one day I saw off Yulia, and an unknown force pulled me into the entrance and kissed me there to bruises.
Men don't like kissing for more than four hours. They begin to mess around, ask to sit down, get distracted. I will forever remember all the cracks in this entrance and how differently its radiators gurgled.
Julia invited her to her second date. As a well-mannered guest, I brought a gift - the book "Kama Sutra". He gave it, and he sat down at his feet - he began to watch Yulia read. She read all three hundred pages. And nothing in her face has changed. She said: "Well, that's it, I read it." For a while we sat in silence. Then I offered to go out to the entrance to kiss. Then her grandmother came to her, our time was up.
For the third time I came to talk about Friedrich Nietzsche. He began with a quote: “There are two things a real man wants: danger and games. And therefore he is looking for a woman - as the most dangerous toy.
And here is the superiority of German techniques over Indian ones: a minute has not passed, Yulia sucked my tongue into herself. Yes, with such force that my other organs made a cork in the throat area.
- This is how a real French kiss is performed! - Julia said, playfully pushing me away. For the next four hours, we sucked each other's tongues out of each other with some even fury. The smack shook the neighborhood. And then it turned out that Yulia smokes, and we broke up.
I described all this in detail to Masha as an example of unnecessary youthful fervor. At the same time he explained that it is necessary to kiss without saliva, in short bursts, slightly attracting and at the same time repelling the victim. Lips should be a little tense, it is better to train on a tomato. Here is a tomato, take it, I give it.
Masha answered: “Love your neighbor” - this means “Leave your neighbor alone!”.
And she left. Judging by the quote, they have already passed Nietzsche.
I peered through the curtain. The gentleman has a scarf, hat, gloves, pretending to be decent, lulls vigilance. Formally went to walk the dog. In peacetime, our dog walks in an anti-submarine zigzag, spraying the world with a pipette. Immediately she was dragged like a jar for a wedding car. She fought against the trees - no one cares. Such an interesting conversation immediately began.
The lovers walked for fourteen hours. When the dog returned, he drank his bowl and both toilet bowls. And for two days, at the word “walk”, she ran under the bed and lamented about something. And I understand her perfectly. A side view of mature feelings will make anyone neurotic.
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In order to fully assemble a child for the new school year, a lot of things are needed: school and sports uniforms, shoes, backpacks, a large number and variety of stationery. But before you go for school uniforms and shoes, you need to figure out how to choose what is really useful, and what you can do without. What you need to pay attention to when buying a school uniform, clothes for school and shoes for school, and how to choose them correctly.
First you need to make a list of what you need to buy. So for sure nothing will be forgotten, and the child will be fully assembled by the new school year. In addition, when choosing school supplies and school clothes, first of all, you need to pay attention to the quality of things, since poor quality always poses a threat to health and in some cases is not at all safe.
But now let's talk in more detail about how to choose the right school uniform and shoes for a child in 2019.
Choosing clothes for school
Most schools in our time had strict rules regarding school uniforms, and the wearing of school uniforms was mandatory. But there were also schools where there were no strict requirements for school uniforms, the main thing is that children should be dressed according to the school dress code.
Regardless of which school you yourself studied in, you should know that from this year, by the Decree of the President, school uniforms in schools have been canceled. That is, they do not have the right to force you to buy uniforms of a single sample. Although, we think that in many schools this issue remains open due to school regulations, where the form is still spelled out. Either way, it's almost certain that your child will need to follow a dress code. Therefore, conditionally, we will call it "school uniform".
The school uniform must be:
- good quality;
- comfortable;
- do not cause discomfort while wearing;
- do not restrict the movements of the child.
Tight clothes worn by children may well provoke infertility in the future, and clothes that are several sizes larger look untidy. The school suit should correspond to the actual sizes that the child wears, in addition, it helps to develop good posture and teaches discipline and accuracy.
It is better to choose a school uniform from natural fabrics. Such clothes are easy to care for and comfortable to wear, they are hygroscopic and breathable. It is better to choose school clothes made of linen, cotton, viscose, wool. The percentage of synthetics in the fabric from which the school uniform or clothes are sewn should not exceed 50%, and the lining (if any) should be made of natural fabrics. For winter, school clothes made of wool or cashmere would be an excellent option, and in the warm season, cotton and linen.
How to choose a school uniform for boys? The standard set of school clothes for boys includes a suit consisting of a jacket and trousers, a cotton shirt, including short sleeves for the warm season. For the winter period, the boy's school wardrobe should include T-shirts, a pair of turtlenecks and wool sweaters.
How to choose a school uniform for girls? For girls, school clothes are, as a rule, dresses, sundresses, skirts in dark colors, as well as turtlenecks, jackets and jumpers in plain dark shades and woolen fabrics. In addition, having a variety of school wardrobe, all things can be combined with each other. Does your daughter love pants? No problem! No one has the right to force girls to go to school exclusively in skirts and dresses.
It is also important to choose the right tracksuit for physical education. It should be of the appropriate size, not restrict movement in the classroom, be of good quality and comfortable to wear. Usually, at the parent-teacher meeting before school, the physical education teacher explains to parents which sports uniform is best for classes.
How to choose shoes for a child to school
The choice of shoes for a student is no less important than the choice of clothing. For school, you will need seasonal shoes, a pair of changeable shoes to wear directly at school during classes, and sports shoes for physical education lessons.
The best option for school shoes is genuine leather shoes. If there is none, then it is necessary that the interior of the shoe be made from natural materials. In such shoes, the child's foot will not sweat, as in shoes made of artificial materials. As a result of the fact that the foot sweats in bad shoes, moisture accumulates inside, this leads to the appearance of diaper rash and even fungal diseases. And in winter, the child's feet will freeze in such shoes. The quality of school shoes should also be as high as possible. Shoes should be durable, well stitched or glued, and such shoes should not be heavy.
Many parents are wondering what is better to choose - shoes with zippers, Velcro or lace-ups? Shoes with zippers or laces provide the best fit for the foot. Such shoes are able to protect the child's legs from injuries such as dislocations and bruises, because the risk that the load on the ankle joint will be distributed incorrectly is reduced.
Velcro shoes will be the most comfortable shoes for primary school children, as this creates certain conveniences for the child in the process of changing shoes on their own. When buying shoes with Velcro, you need to check its quality by fastening and unfastening the Velcro several times. The integrity of that part of the Velcro, on which the loops are located, should not change.
When choosing school shoes, you need to consider that you should not buy shoes with narrow toes for growth, as this can provoke foot deformity. The ideal shoe option for a student would be shoes that have moderately hard backs that will not allow the feet to turn out and soft edges of the shoes that should not rub the child's foot. The sole of the shoe should provide a natural roll of the foot while walking, therefore, the sole of school shoes should not be too hard. In shoes with a hard sole, the legs will quickly get tired, and an excessive load will be placed on the spine. The sole must have a tread and must not be slippery.
Incorrectly selected shoes produce an incorrect gait and, as a result, the development of flat feet. Because of this, posture is disturbed and the spine is bent, which in the future causes other serious health problems. For the prevention of flat feet, it is recommended to purchase shoes with good arch supports, however arch supports are contraindicated if a child has been diagnosed with clubfoot.
Schoolchildren of elementary grades are allowed to have a heel no more than 2 centimeters high, in high school - no more than 3 centimeters.
The size of shoes for school plays a huge role. Schoolchildren's shoes should not be tight, small or with a large margin, for growth. In tight shoes, the foot is compressed, and while moving and walking, the child's leg should feel free and comfortable. In addition, children spend most of their time on the move. And in those shoes that are too big for the child, he is not comfortable, in such shoes the leg is too loose and the child can be injured during outdoor games. The optimal time to try on and buy shoes is in the evening, because after walking for the whole day, the child's foot slightly increases and swells. Do not forget that when trying on shoes with socks, it is easy to make a mistake with the size, since thick socks take up half the size, and thin socks 1/4. In any case, it is always better to buy shoes together with the child, as he will be able to put them on and tell whether they are comfortable in this pair of shoes or not. Shoes for school should be liked by the student himself.
When choosing shoes for school, you need to consider whether the last of a particular pair of shoes is suitable or not. For example, shoes made in China or Korea have a much narrower last than shoes made in Ukraine or Belarus. Shoes with a narrow last, bought for growth, can still be tight and rub the child's foot while wearing.
Outdoor shoes for school
The thickness of the sole of the shoes that the child wears on the street on the way to school should be at least 1 centimeter, as a thick sole will protect the foot from injury if the child steps on a sharp object. In addition, in the cold season, a thick sole protects the child's feet from the cold emanating from the ground.
Replaceable shoes for a child to school
Replaceable shoes for a student must be chosen especially carefully, since the child is in it most of the day indoors. It should be comfortable and of high quality, so any shoes as a replacement will not work. Czechs or slippers cannot be used as replaceable school shoes, as they have a flat sole, for this reason, while wearing, there is an uneven load on the spine and skeleton of the child, which can spoil the posture, gait and even have an undesirable effect on the internal organs of the student.
When a child goes to kindergarten, very often parents buy sandals as replacement shoes, and this is a reasonable choice, since the child is indoors all day, and sandals are open shoes and the foot does not sweat in them. The foot in such shoes is well fixed. A student can buy sandals as replacement shoes, but only models with a closed toe, since in winter the child’s feet can freeze in open sandals, even if there are no problems with heating at school.
Sneakers can only be suitable as replacement shoes if they are made of natural materials, or mesh, so that the foot can breathe. Such sneakers should have an insole that follows the shape of the foot and a tight heel counter.
The best option for interchangeable shoes are shoes. And here are the reasons.
- For a growing child's body, the correct position of the spine and good, proper muscle work are important, and for this it is necessary that the body weight be evenly distributed over the entire foot. This can be achieved by buying low-heeled shoes for a student as a change of shoes.
- In shoes made of natural materials, the child's foot will not sweat and freeze. You can pick up a pair of shoes made of leather or textile material, and the interior trim and insole should not be made of synthetic materials. If the sole of the interchangeable shoes turned out to be slippery, then in order for the child not to be injured in case of a fall on the slippery floor during active games at breaks, it is necessary to stick thin rubber on the sole.
- When choosing shoes, you need to pay attention to the color of the sole. Very often, a dark sole leaves dark spots on the floor that are difficult to wash off. Therefore, in some schools, the administration recommends that schoolchildren buy replaceable shoes with light soles.
- Shoes look the best and go well with the school uniform.
How to choose shoes for physical education at school
The choice of sports shoes for a student should be no less careful than the choice of replacement shoes. Physical education shoes should be of high quality, durable, with a tight heel and an insole that follows the shape of the foot. But sports shoes, as a rule, are made of synthetic materials, so when choosing them, you need to pay attention to the fact that they must be well ventilated and it is best to buy sports shoes in specialized sports stores.
You should not buy sports shoes for a child for growth, since even a size larger than the foot is not fixed in shoes and this increases the risk of injury during physical education.
Summing up the main recommendations for choosing shoes and clothes for a school-age child, we remind you that the main thing to consider is that this is done for your child, for his comfort, successful study and, of course, for health.
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Father Raised Castrate Singer From Michael Jackson
In the old days, boy singers were castrated to keep their high and sonorous voice. This custom lasted the longest in Italy, but even there such barbarism was banned from the middle of the 19th century. However, Joe Jackson, Michael's father, so fanatically wanted to make money on his children that he was ready for anything. During puberty, the father gave the future king of pop hormone injections under the pretext that it was a cure for acne.
From the age of 12, Michael Jackson was given hormonal injections, which led to chemical castration.
Michael's voice remained high. And chemical castration is far from all that the despot father was capable of. The beatings replaced the children's morning exercises, and so that they would not be embarrassed on stage, the father forced them to strip naked.
Michael and La Toya Jackson in their teenage years.
Michael's sister, La Toya Jackson, claimed that her father raped her. Due to childhood trauma, she and her brother suffered from neurosis for many years and could not live a full life. Michael Jackson did not accept his body, did plastic surgery, slept in a pressure chamber. No wonder he didn't leave his father a cent in his will.
The father of pianist Polina Osetinskaya raped teenage girls with her daughter
The well-known screenwriter Oleg Osetinsky said that he had developed the “double stress = antistress” technique, which made it possible to make geeks out of ordinary children. But most of all, this technique resembled the behavior of a sadistic psychopath.
The pianist-wunderkind Polina Osetinskaya suffered in her childhood from her father, who from an early age beat her, intimidated and starved her.
There is a known case: the father threw his daughter's head on the bench and, when she bled from her ear, he simply left. Strangers helped the girl and called an ambulance. In addition to assault and rehearsals until you drop, the despot father's methodology included hunger strikes and intimidation. Polina was considered a musical prodigy in the Union, traveled all over the country thanks to her father's active promotion and gained immense popularity.
According to Polina's memoirs, the parents of promising children asked Osetinsky to work with their offspring. He took only teenage girls. The conditions included cohabitation. Not embarrassed by his daughter, the teacher raped children in her presence.
The father tried to sue Polina for her book about childhood.
Only at the age of 13, Polina was able to escape from her father's care and move in with her mother. Now Osetinskaya is a famous performer. In 2007, she released her memoir Goodbye, Sadness!, and in an interview she mentions that the book has not yet included many things worse than those described.
Britney Campbell's mother injected 8-year-old daughter with Botox
Britney Campbell has participated in many children's beauty pageants. In order for the girl to win, her mother injected her with Botox and did hair removal. When the social services took the child away for the duration of the trial, the mother stated that she had done nothing wrong, and so do all the parents of the girl contestants.
Britney on Good Morning America.
Among the reasons that forced her to carry out painful manipulations with the child, Campbell Sr. called the fear that otherwise other children would call her daughter ugly. She also stated that Britney was worried about her wrinkles.
Bullying for YouTube
Mike and Heather Martin are popular bloggers on YouTube. Their channel, called DaddyOFive, had over 800,000 subscribers and brought the family $20,000 a month. The channel was made popular by videos in which the father and stepmother played cruel pranks and even beat the children.
Mike and Heather Martin made a lot of money on the emotions of their children, but in the end they lost their parental rights.
Many opposed such treatment of children and expressed outrage at the video in which minors are regularly driven to tantrums. The cup of patience was filled with a video published in the spring of 2017, in which the boy Cody's nose was broken.
For the sake of likes and views, children were regularly brought to tears.
The birth mother of Cody and his sister Emmy has started a lawsuit against her ex-husband and his current wife. Defending themselves, bloggers tried to prove that the videos were staged, but this trick failed. Now the children live with their biological mother, fortunately they have psychologically recovered and become cheerful and cheerful again.
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